Our Family Plot

I’ve always been fascinated by cemeteries.

I was one of those strange children who enjoyed the outings to the family plot when we’d visit my grandmother.  I didn’t know who was there and why we’d go.  I just knew it was important to my grandmother.

The great thing for me was standing quietly in a respectful pose, but that wasn’t all.  I would see spirits gathering.  Most often they were far away, but I knew they were there and I believe they knew I could sense and see them.

My Uncle John was always with his camera, but not when we went to the cemetery.  I thought it odd, because the pictures he could take there would be so much more interesting to me than the ones he took of people and places I didn’t know and didn’t really care about.

On one visit I remember it being cold and damp.

At the entrance to the cemetery was a stand that sold bouquets of flowers. My uncle and father got out to make the selection.

I distinctly heard, “Humph! I would prefer flowers from my own garden at home.”

I didn’t know who said it.  I reasoned it couldn’t have been my grandmother or her sister.  If that was what they believed, they wouldn’t have Uncle John buy flowers.

I was puzzled, but I kept quiet. In those days children were to be seen and not heard and I knew my place.

We drove the path to the family plot and got out of the car. My grandmother took the lead and we followed. I was more interested in all the pretty bouquets of flowers and the other people walking around. Real people and spirits.

“Such a waste of money!” I heard. “I don’t know what they were thinking.”

Then a male voice said calmly, “Marie, they come. Be grateful.”

I felt a chill and sneezed.  My mother didn’t want me catching cold and told me to sit in the car.

In the car, I met my great-grandmother and great-grandfather.

“Tell them,” she began, “tell them not to buy flowers, but get them from the garden.”

“I remember the day we planted that garden,” Great-grandfather said. “There was such a discussion on what to plant and how to keep it producing flowers all year.”

They continued talking and I listened, but said nothing.

“Are you hearing us?” she asked.

“Yes, ma’am,” I said nodding.

Of course, that was when my mother decided to get into the car.

“Who are you talking to?”

I immediately told her what I had learned about the flowers and the garden and how Great-grandmother wanted flowers from her garden instead of the over-priced ones sold by the cemetery.

The end of my conversation with my mother didn’t go unnoticed by my grandmother who wanted to hear the whole conversation. Evidently, she got chilled and came to the car.

I really didn’t feel comfortable talking about the spirits . . . and their talking with me to my grandmother or other members of the family. My mother didn’t encourage me to do so normally, but since we were “caught” my mother’s nod indicated it was all right.

That evening when the gates to the cemetery were closed, we went back.

My grandmother did play it “cool” by telling the rest of the family how she remembered collecting flowers from the garden to take to the cemetery. Then others chimed in also recalling those times.

Sitting in the warm house discussing how we would give Great-Grandmother the flowers she wanted seemed like a good idea, but standing outside the cemetery gates in the cold damp foggy night air, I wasn’t so sure.

I was still surprised by how went along with the plot to have my brother and I sneak into the cemetery.

We parked a distance away and walked to the gate.  My brother and I slipped through the bars. Gary held the flashlight and was the navigator and I followed carrying the flowers.

There was a thick fog covering the cemetery. It was creepy.  I didn’t know where we were or if we would find the right spot.

“It’s over there,” I said pointing.  It seemed the fog lifted for us to follow a path to our destination.

“Do you see them?” Gary asked.

“No, but I think they’re helping us.”

Now that I think of that conversation, I think he was referring to the headstones, not the spirits of our great-grandparents.

We did find the right spot with the help of friendly spirits.

Back at my grandmothers house, it seemed about the same time we placed the flowers on the headstones, her house was filled with the fragrance of flowers. I would have liked to have experienced that.

This early introduction to sneaking into a cemetery after dark may have planted a seed.

To this day I go to the cemetery after dark and place flowers on graves. Some cemetery gates are open and others have gates that close at dusk. I sometimes join a group of florists who place flowers on graves for holidays.

This seems to be my calling to remember those who have passed long ago.

I have met some interesting spirits throughout the years . . . I’ve also been spooked more times than I care to admit. But, in the end, I am so very grateful that I’ve been able to do this . . . and it began so very many years ago.

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Different Types Of “Hauntings”

I’m aware of 4 different kinds of “hauntings”.

You may know them by different names . . . or you may know of some that are “new” to me. From my understanding, these are the basic types of “hauntings” or “spirits” — other ones may fall into these categories.

First there are Impression Hauntings.

This is usually “left over energy” from a person who is now deceased. It’s not a conscious ghost, nor conscious ghost energy. This “impression energy” can also be given by the living.

Huh? Let me give you an example: let’s say you’re a college student. At the beginning of the term you had good feelings about all your classes and viewed the text books as a welcome source of information. Later on, one of those text books became a source of great anxiety to you. The class was difficult and the subject matter was near impossible for you to grasp. So, over time, that book picked up on your anxiety to the point where you couldn’t even look at it without getting upset. And, if you sold the book back to the bookstore, your anxious energy would have built up in association with that book and would be left on that book.

A sensitive person, upon touching that text book could detect this anxious energy you placed on it.

I’ve had similar experiences with a particular chair or desk in a classroom. As though it was the “hot seat” — the one the teacher would invariably call upon to answer a difficult question. There was a build up of “anxious” energy on that chair or desk. The student felt it — and the teacher felt it . . . It could have been anyplace in the classroom — it wasn’t the location, but the seat itself.

Second we come to the Loop Apparition. 

This is basically the same concept as an impression haunting, except of it being left behind energy on an object or place, there is an image associated with it — a ghostly apparition may appear which is a left over energy source of an event that occurred during a critical part of a person’s life..

These loop apparitions are not conscious ghosts. They are more like a recording, stuck on repeat and replayed over and over again of what the person was doing before they died.

An example would be the Battle at Gettysburg. Many people have seen ghostly apparitions on this site. There have also been reports of people seeing Civil War soldiers sitting around a table cluttered with maps, planning their strategy.

A friend of mine recorded an apparition that would come in through the front down and walk to the kitchen . . . then disappear. She recorded it on consecutive days — the same woman, same movement.

I’ve heard of “hauntings” where a lit candle is placed in one particular window night after night. Or a woman walking night after night on a “widows walk” waiting . . . watching . . . That, I believe is an excellent example of an energy source apparition rather than a conscious ghost.

Third, is one most of us are aware: Earth Bound Spirits.

These are conscious ghosts whose passing was unexpected, usually through an accident or murder.

They could also be of those who were not ready to “pass over” because they felt their life was “cut short” due to illness or had regrets of being unable to complete something important to them. This even happens to those who died peacefully in their sleep. They are unaware of their passing.

You may be familiar with EVPs who ask, “Am I dead?”

These earth bound spirits remain in familiar surroundings. This could be the land, the house, a favorite place where they “felt at home.” That’s why many children haunt a playground of a school or even their classroom. If people loved their job, they may want to be there.

And, there are those who have a treasured possession and want to stay near it. This happens with jewelry, household items such as cabinets, music boxes and various furnishings. They seem to move about in unpredictable patterns. These conscious “ghosts” may interact with you. You’ll feel as though you’re being watched or followed when you wear a particular object. Or, if it is a household possession, you’ll feel as though you’re not alone in the house.

I’m reminded of a story I read about a man who saw a woman every morning standing at the picture window in the living room. It was as though she was anxiously watching for someone to arrive. That’s a non-conscious loop pattern energy source apparition. She’s following a repeated pattern, completely unaware of the man watching her.

These “earth bound spirits” can and do move objects, open and close doors, walk around the house day and night, etc.

I had a “resident ghost” who would move my furniture around. Obviously, she didn’t like the way I arranged my furniture and kept moving my furniture. Sometimes she became fixated on a particular piece and would move it around — even to different rooms. It became quite annoying, so I sent my “resident ghost” on her way.

Finally, we come to the Malevolent Spirits.

I’m not at all fond of these non-human spirits. Their purpose is to cause bodily and emotional harm to living human beings. These are extremely rare, but they can come from evil or possessed deceased humans.

They usually are attached to a toy or doll. They prefer contact with children rather than adults. We’re very aware of malevolent spirits being attached to Ouija Boards — more for the tween, teen and young adults.

As I said earlier, their goal is usually to infest children, but they can infest anyone of any age depending upon the spirit’s motive. Brings to mind “Chucky” doesn’t it.

Once you detect something malevolent about an object, get rid of it!!!

That last one really freaks me out. These malevolent spirits can start out by being “friendly”, helping you find misplaced items or playing pranks on a bully. Then, once they gain your trust . . . all hell breaks loose.

Be aware of ghostly visitations in dreams, nightmares, foul smells, loud unexplained noises, objects being moved or rearranged.

One child, upon getting a new toy would find that his homework was torn up the next morning upon awaking. He also noticed the toy was never where he left it before going to bed. It appeared this malevolent spirit was always getting him in trouble by “stealing cookies”, spilling the contents of cereal boxes, dumping out the contents of the refrigerator, drawers and cupboards. Also cutting up the parent’s clothing.

That may be why I don’t like the Christmas item “elf on a shelf”. And why many children are freaked out by it — yet it is still quite popular.

Well, that’s enough of that!! I hope this was informative. Thanks for stopping by!