by Sharon | Oct 28, 2015
Do You Count Your Blessings Daily?
Are you truly thankful for your many blessings?
Is this a thought that comes around only during Thanksgiving?
There’s plenty of negativity around us. The trick is to ignore it and fill your heart and mind with positive thoughts. I know it is easier said than done.
Would You Rather Be Happy Or Complaining All of the Time?
Have you noticed how many say the former and do the latter?
Most of us are a mixture — we may start out happy and then something we see or hear turns us into a complainer. Or we may get into a rant about something.
I know it may seem foolish and childish, but you can make a Unicorn or Pegasus or a combination of the two creating your own little critter to remind you to be thankful, gracious, think positively and count your many blessings.
It’s Easy To Find Fault
But, at times, not so easy to find things to praise.
We do it with our family, friends and neighbors. We appraise people regularly, but may not say anything — hopefully not when negative thoughts come to mind. And many times praise comes out sounding flat and shallow.
Why?
Because it isn’t practiced enough. The negative too often comes to mind and right out of the mouth.
In Order To Be More Positive, You Need To Do Acts Of Kindness
Around the holidays it’s always easy to do little acts of kindness.
It isn’t so easy to do them on a daily basis or we haven’t given it enough thought.
I was running this idea by many friends and neighbors and complete strangers I encountered the other day.
One theme ran through their responses:
Society Has Such An “Entitlement Attitude”
One man said, “I don’t give as much as I used to. What you do isn’t appreciated. They think they’re entitled to a free meal at Thanksgiving or buying school clothes for their kids. I’m disgusted.”
Others chimed in:
“There was a man on the freeway off ramp with a sign, ‘Will Work For Food.’ I didn’t have a job for him, but I had a fresh cold container of orange juice I gave him.”
“That was very thoughtful.”
“Yes, especially with the weather being warm and who knew how long he was standing there.”
“Do you want to know what that man did?”
We all nodded in unison.
“He threw that orange juice bottle at my car as I was moving forward. I have a dent on my trunk where it landed.”
You may think this is just an isolated case
There were stories about giving food to someone who came to the door at dinner time.
“We were eating spaghetti, so I fixed a plate and gave it to the man at the door. He looked at it, stuck his fork in a meatball, took a bite and spit it out.”
“We were in the back yard with steaks on the bbq. This guy comes along without saying a word and takes a steak and walks away without a thank you or even a grunt of acknowledgment. I was thankful he took only one steak.”
I may not have succeed here with thoughts of kindness, being thankful and being more positive, but I have illustrated why with such experiences, we aren’t as giving and positive.
I have made and set out many of these paper craft Unicorns and Pegasuses around my house. I don’t want to be tainted by my own experiences and those of others.
I don’t know from where this “entitlement attitude” materialized. I know I don’t like it. I learned a long time ago that no one owes me anything.
Not a kind word and definitely not a hand-out in whatever form that may take.
These Unicorns and Pegasuses are a reminder to me to be more thankful, positive and kind. I think it’s a gentle way of encouraging children to think of others in a more kind manner and to truly appreciate all the blessings they have in life.
We Are Responsible For Changing Our Own Behavior
I don’t like others manipulating me to change my beliefs and attitudes any more than any other person likes being manipulated.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, beliefs and attitudes. It is wrong to inflict yours upon others, just as an individual declares something is offensive to them.
My goodness, if I had a nickel for every time I was offended by something . . .
To be completely honest with you, I don’t go around looking to be offended by certain things. I don’t think “offended” comes into play as much as not liking something. But my not liking something refers to my not liking it for myself, not trying to change something in others.
If there’s something about yourself you don’t like, then you can focus on it and take action to change it. Unfortunately, it doesn’t happen over-night, but with continued effort, you’ll make those changes.
I believe that what you concentrate upon is what you bring to you. It’s not magical. You’re more apt to notice those things you have in mind.
While I focus upon blessings and being thankful, I realize how truly blessed I am and how I have many things for which to be thankful.
The paper crafts are merely a reminder for me to leave the negativity behind and concentrate upon positive things. Things that enrich my life. Not tear it down.
It’s also helpful to find the humor in things, rather than being disgusted by them.
It’s all about choices and priorities. They’re different for everyone.
I’m pushing my thoughts ahead to Thanksgiving during this Halloween week because I’m prepared for Halloween and not for Thanksgiving. I know there are many who have Thanksgiving and Christmas all planned.
I am happy for them. They have travel reservations to set up. I admire planning ahead.
I’ve rambled long enough.
I’m very grateful to those of you who have read this post to the end.
I hope the Unicorns and Pegasus find a place in your home. They are cute and well fed on your many kindnesses, positive thoughts, blessings and thankfulness.
Sharon
by Sharon | Oct 22, 2015
It’s Amazing How Something Simple Can Be Made Halloween Creepy
I’m not into the gross, but I can appreciate the spooky and the thought provoking.
This image with the Victorian Birds seems tasteful, but also creepy in a Hitchcock sort of way. Maybe a bit Poe . . . and Stephen King as well. Many writers get their ideas from normal everyday objects . . . and ask “What if . . .”
It got me thinking . . . always a dangerous sign . . .
So many . . . yes, so many people have a fear of clowns . . . how would clowns work in place of the birds. Maybe a bit too creepy to create if you have a fear of them . . . Yet these birds do have a bit of a clownish feel with the ruffled collar, yet that could be the Victorian or Elizabethan era theme.
Witches would be a safe bet . . . ghosts, too . . . and all those people who are into zombies . . . that would be a scary way to go.
You get any sort of gathering of the creepy and scary and it brings inspiration of other frightening spooky images.
A Typewriter Seems A Natural Centerpiece . . . but a Haunted House Works Well, Too
Or a witch’s hat or shoe . . .
I was thinking of a model train engine . . . maybe even a model car . . . an old airplane . . . or a pirate’s ship . . .
You may like a skull with some bones . . .
It’s great to allow your thoughts to get into the creative mode and do something scream worthy for your very own centerpiece decor. The more original you can be, the better . . . but you can get plenty of helpful ideas from http://ravensblight.com
I find The Dark Promise appealing . . .
And you’ll find a lot of interesting things by Ray O’Bannon from Ravens Blight of interest.
Here’s a Haunted House Treat Box you may enjoy.
It’s perfect for giving treats to the neighbors and for kids to give treats to their friends and maybe even their teacher.
I love paper craft boxes for all occasions.
Thanks for stopping by and have fun over at Ravens Blight.
by Sharon | Oct 21, 2015
I’m always amazed when the weather commentator gets it right.
It was right on schedule, just past midnight. The thunder rumbled and roared. A bright flash of lightning and the tap, tap, tapping of the rain on the roof. This weather pattern will remain in place through the week and maybe the weekend or clear up. I’m sure it is all subject to change.
The thunder is still grumbling and rumbling. The rain has stopped and I’m not near a window to see the lightning. That’s fine with me. It gives me some mood music to write this blog during the wee morning hours.
I was thinking of writing about Halloween, but I may table that for closer to the actual day. I don’t want to freak myself out so I’ll write something positive and uplifting.
Wow! I just wrote the above sentence and now all I can think about is Halloween.
The Legend of Sleepy Hollow by Washington Irving is my very favorite Halloween-type story. I remember when I first read the opening paragraphs, I absolutely couldn’t make sense out of it. But now, I find it quite quaint and an apt description:
The Legend of Sleepy Hollow
Found Among The Papers of the Late Diedrich Knickerbocker
A pleasing land of drowsy head it was,
Of dreams that wave before the half-shut eye;
And of gay castles in the clouds that pass,
For ever flushing round a summer sky.
Castle of Indolence.
“IN the bosom of one of those spacious coves which indent the eastern shore of the Hudson, at that broad expansion of the river denominated by the ancient Dutch navigators the Tappan Zee, and where they always prudently shortened sail, and implored the protection of St. Nicholas when they crossed, there lies a small market-town or rural port, which by some is called Greensburgh, but which is more generally and properly known by the name of Tarry Town. This name was given, we are told, in former days, by the good housewives of the adjacent country, from the inveterate propensity of their husbands to linger about the village tavern on market days. Be that as it may, I do not vouch for the fact, but merely advert to it, for the sake of being precise and authentic. Not far from this village, perhaps about two miles, there is a little valley, or rather lap of land, among high hills, which is one of the quietest places in the whole world. A small brook glides through it, with just murmur enough to lull one to repose; and the occasional whistle of a quail, or tapping of a woodpecker, is almost the only sound that ever breaks in upon the uniform tranquillity.
“I recollect that, when a stripling, my first exploit in squirrel-shooting was in a grove of tall walnut-trees that shades one side of the valley. I had wandered into it at noon time, when all nature is peculiarly quiet, and was startled by the roar of my own gun, as it broke the Sabbath stillness around, and was prolonged and reverberated by the angry echoes. If ever I should wish for a retreat, whither I might steal from the world and its distractions, and dream quietly away the remnant of a troubled life, I know of none more promising than this little valley.
“From the listless repose of the place, and the peculiar character of its inhabitants, who are descendants from the original Dutch settlers, this sequestered glen has long been known by the name of SLEEPY HOLLOW, and its rustic lads are called the Sleepy Hollow Boys throughout all the neighboring country. A drowsy, dreamy influence seems to hang over the land, and to pervade the very atmosphere. Some say that the place was bewitched by a high German doctor, during the early days of the settlement; others, that an old Indian chief, the prophet or wizard of his tribe, held his pow-wows there before the country was discovered by Master Hendrick Hudson. Certain it is, the place still continues under the sway of some witching power, that holds a spell over the minds of the good people, causing them to walk in a continual reverie. They are given to all kinds of marvellous beliefs; are subject to trances and visions; and frequently see strange sights, and hear music and voices in the air. The whole neighborhood abounds with local tales, haunted spots, and twilight superstitions; stars shoot and meteors glare oftener across the valley than in any other part of the country, and the nightmare, with her whole nine fold, seems to make it the favorite scene of her gambols.
“The dominant spirit, however, that haunts this enchanted region, and seems to be commander-in-chief of all the powers of the air, is the
apparition of a figure on horseback without a head. It is said by some to be the ghost of a Hessian trooper, whose head had been carried away by a cannon-ball, in some nameless battle during the revolutionary war; and who is ever and anon seen by the country folk hurrying along in the gloom of night, as if on the wings of the wind. His haunts are not confined to the valley, but extend at times to the adjacent roads, and especially to the vicinity of a church at no great distance. Indeed, certain of the most authentic historians of those parts, who have been careful in collecting and collating the floating facts concerning this spectre, allege that the body of the trooper, having been buried in the church-yard, the ghost rides forth to the scene of battle in nightly quest of his head; and that the rushing speed with which he sometimes passes along the Hollow, like a midnight blast, is owing to his being belated, and in a hurry to get back to the church-yard before daybreak.
“Such is the general purport of this legendary superstition, which has furnished materials for many a wild story in that region of shadows; and the spectre is known, at all the country firesides, by the name of the Headless Horseman of Sleepy Hollow.”
The story does continue in this descriptive manner of the region and the superstitions of the townsfolk . . . and given the region’s haunting history . . . the perfect setting for a legend centered around the likes of the new schoolmaster, Ichabod Crane.
Yes, this legend has been a “must read” every Halloween evening, after the trick-or-treating crowd have all gone home. It is interesting to leave the porch light on and see at what point in the story, a strangling trick-or-treater rings the doorbell and has me jumping out of my skin.
If you haven’t read the legend, I highly recommend you do. Or get the audio version of the story. It is worthwhile to hear it in the original grammar of the time it was written. I don’t know if a modern version would do it justice.
It does make me wonder if this was an original urban legend or if it came about completely from the imagination of Washington Irving.
This is a haunting tale that has been used in several movies and remakes. Everyone seems to be aware of the Headless Horseman, but I don’t know if they associate it with Sleepy Hollow. Or are aware of Washington Irving’s legend.
I don’t remember reading it as a school assignment. It was a book we had at home. I had asked about it when I was in elementary school. I struggled with the wording and couldn’t wrap my mind around it. My father took pity on me, read it aloud and stopped regularly to explain it.
It became my all-time favorite. Every year I’d take the book off the shelf and read it. Each reading became clearer and I’ve been hooked ever since.
I’m sure I wrote a book report on it, more than once through my elementary years. The report wasn’t a carbon copy of the previous one, because each year as I became more familiar with the book and the characters I was able to write a more elaborate report. Also, it was good I did change schools several times . . . so no one seemed to be the wiser that I had this one book in my book report stash.
Aw, come on! I’m sure you did the same thing!!
I read several books during the summer. It was surprising that no matter what school I attended in California, every teacher seemed to hand out the same summer reading list. I wouldn’t have been surprised if it didn’t come from the librarian or a magazine listing books that were appropriate at different age levels.
It seemed one of the first things we did wherever we moved was to get a library card from the local library. I remember one place had a book mobile that would regularly park a couple of blocks away. The whole neighborhood, parents with their kids, would stroll on over to the book mobile. I remember waiting outside for a family to check out their books and leave the bus before we could go inside and browse the shelves.
It was a sad day when several libraries were shutting down due to budget cuts.
The children here are very fortunate to have a privately funded library with a regular children’s story time. It’s good for the children to get in the habit of reading early and for parents to read stories to their children regularly. It’s always nice to have a book to read.
I didn’t think it would happen to me, but I love my Kindle. I know many people like the feel and the smell of a real hardback or even paperback book. What I love about my Kindle is that I don’t have to worry about book shelf space. I’ve been able to get many of them free and also as low as $.99 or even for a couple of dollars. It is a great savings. And the absolute best part is that I don’t have to wait for delivery. It is automatically put in my Kindle. Is that amazing or what!! The same is true of movies, but that works with other companies, too. We are definitely spoiled by getting what we want immediately on out gadgets without leaving the comfort of our homes.
If you’re not familiar with Kindle, here are some links:



I’m sure you’ve had a story that completely captured your imagination. Please tell me about it in the comments below.
Thanks for stopping by,
Sharon
by Sharon | Oct 12, 2015
Boo-ing the neighbors is a good thing to do. I see it as a “pay it forward” type of activity.

Image and Free Printables Courtesy of http://www.sistasfun.blogspot.com
I did this last year and had a great time. At our annual Block Party around Christmas, Boo-ing the neighbors was the buzz. And it can happen around Christmas, too — stay tuned.
My neighborhood is changing with more families moving in. It’s nice to have more children in the neighborhood. I believe it keeps the neighborhood young. And any activities you can do to get the neighbors involved with other neighbors, all the better. It doesn’t matter if you know them or not . . . maybe it would be more fun if you don’t.
Now this next part may be a bit creepy, but bare with me. You need to go out in the neighborhood on a leisurely stroll. You’re going to do a mini stake-out. Just checking out the neighbors that you don’t live around. The idea of boo-ing the neighbors is to go in the dark of night, leave a packet of goodies at the door, ring the doorbell and run like the wind to a safe place where you won’t be detected. I like going out in the early morning, leave the goodies and get home before the neighbor opens their door and finds the goodies.
This spy thing you’re going to do is to find the best time to do your initial delivery — you don’t want your neighbors to find out who left the packet of boo-ing instructions and the goodies. And, you need to see how many people use their front door. Many go through the garage or have a back or side door they use. Also, watch out for those motion detector lights. If your target has those, you need to know when you should deliver your packet while your neighbor is out shopping or picking up the kids or dropping them off at school.
I pick four houses. Two of retired people and two where there are children. I want the retired folks to get involved by receiving something for this Halloween/Harvest season. They may get a kick out of leaving a packet at a neighbor’s door or they will just enjoy the goodies they received. Now families with children are more likely to get involved in the activity.
I drop my four bundles at the four doors and I wait a couple of days to see if the sign “We’ve Been Boo-ed goes up on their door or in a window. If not, I have to select a couple of more houses.
For me, it doesn’t matter if the neighbors get involved or not. I’m having fun giving.
Yet, I do like it when I see those signs popping up that read, “We’ve Been Boo-ed!”
You do have a decision to make. You can either put your “We’ve Been Boo-ed!” sign up or wait to see if you’ve been boo-ed. It doesn’t matter either way. You just don’t necessarily want the neighbors to know who started the whole thing. Not that it really matters, but I think having the neighbors guessing is a good thing. It’s all in fun with good candy for the neighbors to enjoy.
I believe it starts the ball rolling for Halloween . . . even if it isn’t a holiday or activity in which you choose to participate. My neighborhood is very good about honoring the porch light rule — if the porch light is off, don’t knock at the door.
I’m curious to see if any neighbors from last year will get the ball rolling this year. Wouldn’t it be delightful to see two or three neighbors getting involved at the beginning? My goal is to have every house in the neighborhood Boo-ed before Halloween.
You can look online and see all kinds of different designs to use for your boo-ing pleasure.
I do like this design on the right. It has both the poem and the sign on one sheet of paper. If you go to the website you’ll find there are three versions for you to print out . . . also you may want to do some boo-ing at work.
Some people don’t like the idea of making 2 goodie packs to distribute when they only received one.
The idea for me is to spread the good cheer for this harvest time of year. No one will know if you participated or not in all honesty. So, if you choose not to participate, that’s perfectly all right. If you choose to give only one, that’s perfectly all right, too.
It’s something you want to do . . . not have to do.
The same is true about participating in the Trick-or-Treats on All Hollow’s Eve.
I enjoy participating within the neighborhood. Most holidays are personal involving just the family. Yet for Christmas we do outdoor decorating for the neighbors to see and to enjoy.
As I said, this is a fun activity I enjoy doing . . . even if I’m the only one doing it. And maybe it’s a good idea not to overdo it. I was looking online and I saw different similar activities for Christmas, St. Patrick’s Day and Valentine’s Day.
The act of giving or paying it forward comes in all forms and the idea is to give without expecting anything in return. I know I’ve paid for the bill of the car behind me in a drive-thru fast food place on a whim. I know people have done the same in restaurants and at theaters. It is just something nice to do and give some stranger a pleasant surprise.
I don’t think this will change the world, but it couldn’t hurt.
Thanks for stopping by!
Please leave me a commented if you’re so moved to do so.
Sharon
by Sharon | Oct 10, 2015
Autumn Glory
Written by Marilyn Ferguson
©2004
Autumn breeze is blowing
Chill is in the air
Leaves are gently swirling
Scattered here and there.
People clad in jackets
Cider nice and hot
Wiener roast and campfire
Sure does hit the spot.
Football games on Fridays
Fans can now be found
Huddled round in blankets
Rivals come to town.
Wintertime is coming
Leaves are being shed
Lovely shades of yellow
Touch of crimson red.
Frost is on the pumpkin
Hunter with his gun
Days are growing shorter
Golden fields are spun.
God is quite the artist
Paints a canopy
Add a splash of color
For everyone to see.
Yes, Marilyn Ferguson’s lovely poem brings images to mind of all the wonders of the autumn season.
There is so very much to like. From pumpkin spice lattes to apple cider and plain delicious hot coffee or tea. I look forward to hay rides and going to the pumpkin patch, selecting pumpkins to carve. I mustn’t forget about the tailgate parties and the bonfires. Then there are the haunted houses that delight you with a bit of fright, but not enough to have you running away screaming in the still of the night.
I do have a few neighbors who have waited quite some time to begin decorating for All Hollows Eve. I like taking my time to get into the fall season and bask in the colors. I do enjoy crunching in the leaves while I’m in the process of raking them up. It could be strenuous exercise, but I take my time. It’s all right to spend all morning working in the yard. I like greeting all the joggers, power-walkers and dog walkers. Some are very serious about their morning workout and others are relaxed and don’t mind stopping for a bit of a chat.
It seems as though the high school and college football games bring the most excitement. You can choose to attend and participate in the festivities or sit it out and remember how it was for you. I still get caught up in the celebrations. It’s possible to feel the electricity in the air of all that youthful energy, excitement and enthusiasm.
Fall from beginning to end is all about sharing and caring with family and friends. Something, no matter how old we get, thrills us.
There are many who have lost family and friends, finding themselves alone. It doesn’t have to be a sad time.
Maybe you won’t be attending the parties and gatherings, but you have your own memories. The great thing about memories is that we can choose to remember only the good. And a little dose of how it wasn’t all that wonderful wouldn’t hurt. You see, you are in a position to create your own traditions and your own celebrations. It doesn’t even matter if you end up doing things alone. There’s no harm in that. You see, it is all about you and how you can decide how you want to feel about the season.
I’m not one to mope around about it. I have plenty of things to keep me busy that I truly enjoy doing. It could be doing crafts or indoor and outdoor activities. As I said, raking leaves can be either enjoyable or a chore. I choose to look on the bright side.
I have found over the years that I don’t need to be out and about with all the hoopla of the fall activities. I don’t know about outgrowing them as much as choosing other priorities. It is moving on with your life. Do you remember the Bible verse that says, “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11 of the King James Version.
I’m not saying this is childish, I’m saying some things aren’t meant to go on and on and on. But I do know people who are into their alumni football games. They do attend the game against their arch rival every year. They do get together with old friends. That’s great and wonderful, but there are many who don’t. Neither is right nor wrong, it just is. And it is about the choices you make.
There are so many other things you can do to take the place of those activities. And as we’ve matured, we’ve naturally made choices. We move on, life moves on. We hold fast to those things that are important to us.
This discussion of fall is far from over.
Please leave me a comment to let me know your thoughts about fall and whatever motivated you to leave a comment.
Until next time,
Sharon